We Are Married

Being married has its hard times; those times when you feel like you cannot take it anymore, the times when you just have to go crazy and let it all out. Those hard times carry their own benefits. One of them is that you learn how to handle your emotions and how to express your feelings. Because, after that, you regain your senses again and both of you can talk it out. After all, we are just being real human beings. But, being married doctors have its own hardships. Especially when both of your schedules do not allow you to spend more than 4 hours together in a day and you just cannot do anything about it. During those times when you are left alone, the only thing you can do is try your hardest to occupy your time with the various distractions you have around the house. That is the time when you tweet with your iPad and blog with your laptop at the same time. Haha. To tell you the truth, being married HOs is amazing. Why? Because you will always have someone by your side that ac...

It is an amazing feeling; when you realize that your spouse actually knows you better than you know yourself. Today, this happened: Me: Why didn't you talk to me? Him: Because I know you were tired and hungry. So, I let you eat and cool down first before I approach you to say anything. Which is the ultimate truth; don't talk to me when I am hungry/tired, I will actually turn into a dragon. Haha. I think that is the sweetest surprise; how my husband actually understands me and knows exactly what to do when it comes to me and my terrible mood swings. It just reminds me why I fall in love with him. So, try as much to understand each other. I think silence helps a lot in this matter. Assess the situation and learn from experiences. Yes, we learn from our mistakes. But, too many mistakes can lead to disaster. So, make just enough to learn as much as you can. In marriage, there is ALWAYS room for improvement. All you need is time and space...and, of course, love.

I know being married for one month is not really a huge achievement (unless, of course, if you are Kim Kardashian or Katy Perry). But, it is nice to have little celebrations for those small achievements that, when combined together, will eventually become a huge shining trophy. People like to keep track of the big stuff that they forget the little things. Those little things count for something, too. That one time your husband remembers to take out the trash without you asking him? That one time your wife lets you sleep in? That one time you did that little crazy thing? I am a huge believer of the little things. I believe that the little things change our lives more than the big things. After all, those gaps in our lives, are better filled with the little pieces of puzzle than the big ones, simply because they can fit better. So, remember all those little moments and keep them close to your hearts. You may one day discover its magic.

Although the word "fun" consists of only 3 letters, it has many different meanings depending on who you ask. Dearest and me define "fun" differently; I think going to museums is fun, he finds amusement parks fun. No, I do not really enjoy amusement parks. Yes, I mean that. I know, I know. But, that does not prevent us from having fun together. I think what really defines fun is who, not what. Even the lamest activity can be fun, when you are doing it with someone you love. Yes, that was a somewhat cheesy sentence. But, honestly, I think it's true. After all, marriage is about compromise and sacrifice. So, sacrifice your definition of fun and relax! Try out different things together. Who knows? You might surprise yourself. All in all, I thank Allah because my husband enjoys shopping almost as much as I do.

Small words are never tiny.  Everyone can search for those big big words and use them to appear mighty. But, manipulating the small everyday words is an art; one false step and a masterpiece turns into junk.  So, take your time to form your piece of art using those small words. Piece them together in the best way you can and present them to your loved ones.  After all, they deserve the best of you.

We have been married for a week now. It was like the intro of a documentary in Discovery Channel..and, I do love documentaries.  This 1st week of our marriage has been great! Well, you know how optimistic and dreamy newlyweds are. During this great week, I have learned: 1. It is okay to say it twice 2. You only know how you feel   1. It Is Okay To Say It Twice I consider myself as an independent person. During the times that I actually ask for help, I will ask for it once, and, if the other person did not manage to do it (either because they forgot or pretended to forget), I will end up doing it myself. But, in marriage, you cannot do everything on your own.  It is really okay to repeat that plea, because, for all we know, the second plea may just get us what we want. Throw away that temptation and that pride (and the laziness! "Malas nak cakap banyak-banyak kali")  because we are now in this together and it is important to keep that togetherness.  S...