We have been married for a week now. It was like the intro of a documentary in Discovery Channel..and, I do love documentaries.
This 1st week of our marriage has been great! Well, you know how optimistic and dreamy newlyweds are.
During this great week, I have learned:
1. It is okay to say it twice
2. You only know how you feel
1. It Is Okay To Say It Twice
I consider myself as an independent person. During the times that I actually ask for help, I will ask for it once, and, if the other person did not manage to do it (either because they forgot or pretended to forget), I will end up doing it myself. But, in marriage, you cannot do everything on your own.
It is really okay to repeat that plea, because, for all we know, the second plea may just get us what we want. Throw away that temptation and that pride (and the laziness! "Malas nak cakap banyak-banyak kali") because we are now in this together and it is important to keep that togetherness.
So, ask for help, and, repeat it again. It's okay.
2. You Only Know How You Feel
At times, we are just too tired to think about how others feel and we are very tempted to just shout it out.
Stop.
Thinking does not require any physical work. So, during the times we are frustrated, we should rest and start thinking about how we feel AND contemplate about how the other person feels. Give them the benefit of doubt. After all, we can only guess when it comes to the feeling of others.
Then, talk it out and clear up all those clouds that fill up our sky and block that ray of happiness from reaching us.
We are here to learn from one another, right? So let's start learning.
This 1st week of our marriage has been great! Well, you know how optimistic and dreamy newlyweds are.
During this great week, I have learned:
1. It is okay to say it twice
2. You only know how you feel
1. It Is Okay To Say It Twice
I consider myself as an independent person. During the times that I actually ask for help, I will ask for it once, and, if the other person did not manage to do it (either because they forgot or pretended to forget), I will end up doing it myself. But, in marriage, you cannot do everything on your own.
It is really okay to repeat that plea, because, for all we know, the second plea may just get us what we want. Throw away that temptation and that pride (and the laziness! "Malas nak cakap banyak-banyak kali") because we are now in this together and it is important to keep that togetherness.
So, ask for help, and, repeat it again. It's okay.
2. You Only Know How You Feel
At times, we are just too tired to think about how others feel and we are very tempted to just shout it out.
Stop.
Thinking does not require any physical work. So, during the times we are frustrated, we should rest and start thinking about how we feel AND contemplate about how the other person feels. Give them the benefit of doubt. After all, we can only guess when it comes to the feeling of others.
Then, talk it out and clear up all those clouds that fill up our sky and block that ray of happiness from reaching us.
We are here to learn from one another, right? So let's start learning.
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