5 Months+ : Hard Times

Being married has its hard times; those times when you feel like you cannot take it anymore, the times when you just have to go crazy and let it all out. Those hard times carry their own benefits. One of them is that you learn how to handle your emotions and how to express your feelings.

Because, after that, you regain your senses again and both of you can talk it out. After all, we are just being real human beings.

But, being married doctors have its own hardships. Especially when both of your schedules do not allow you to spend more than 4 hours together in a day and you just cannot do anything about it. During those times when you are left alone, the only thing you can do is try your hardest to occupy your time with the various distractions you have around the house. That is the time when you tweet with your iPad and blog with your laptop at the same time. Haha.

To tell you the truth, being married HOs is amazing. Why? Because you will always have someone by your side that actually understands what you are going through. Especially when you work in the same hospital; you can gossip about the same people, bash the same people, joke about the same stuff...yes, it is just amazing. But, of course, when your schedules just do not allow you to spend a lot of time together...

I guess being married is about focusing on the good and accepting the bad as it is. It is about living together as much as it is about living with yourself.

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