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5 Months: Yes, I Do

It is an amazing feeling; when you realize that your spouse actually knows you better than you know yourself.

Today, this happened:
Me: Why didn't you talk to me?
Him: Because I know you were tired and hungry. So, I let you eat and cool down first before I approach you to say anything.


Which is the ultimate truth; don't talk to me when I am hungry/tired, I will actually turn into a dragon. Haha.

I think that is the sweetest surprise; how my husband actually understands me and knows exactly what to do when it comes to me and my terrible mood swings. It just reminds me why I fall in love with him.

So, try as much to understand each other. I think silence helps a lot in this matter. Assess the situation and learn from experiences. Yes, we learn from our mistakes. But, too many mistakes can lead to disaster. So, make just enough to learn as much as you can.

In marriage, there is ALWAYS room for improvement. All you need is time and space...and, of course, love.

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